While waiting for my friend Jing to arrive for an early morning shoot at the Rotorua Lakefront
I saw this beautiful young woman
and her man taking photos of each other.
They looked so happy and so in love that I asked them if I could take their photos.
They were very happy and obliging
And it turned out that they were from India and were on their honeymoon
Her feet and hands had henna pictures hand drawn on a day before the wedding.
They showed me their wedding pictures and the dress was beautiful and so was his costume.
I love the Indian culture for their flamboyance and artistic expression
I asked them if it was an arranged marriage and they said yes.
They had their stars read to see if they would be compatible, a lot of thought and planing had gone into it and they liked the look of each other immediately.
So they agreed and it was organised.
The wedding went on for four days and then they came out with a group for a tour of New Zealand.
So how wonderful I thought and how efficient.
These people were so well suited and I started to think about our system in the Western world.
Does it make for happier longer marriages where people choose each other because they fall in love?
What about all the women in the Western world who want to get married and have children but can't find a husband because the men are happy with staying uncommitted and having everything they want without any obligation?
What would happen if women started valuing themselves more and treating themselves like prizes and saying no to men?
In an ideal world I would advocate this.
Say no more often to men, don't be so willing to cater to their needs and don't put up with their abuse, whether it be mental, emotional or spiritual.
Creative Quotes of the day
Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
We loved with a love that was more than love.